HAPPINESS - June 17
Happiness has very little to do with what you look like and everything to do with who you are.
I’m here to encourage people of every size, shape, age, experience level, and ability to grab life by the curves—and never let go!
OBSESSIONS - June 18
I used to take before photos, weight and measurements and weigh myself on the scale every dang day. Sometimes more! Is this something you still do?
I used to do this too, but then I want you to ask yourself RIGHT NOW:
What's the point? Are you going to love yourself more if you lose a few pounds? Are you going to love yourself LESS if you don't lose any weight? Do you really care what other people think of your body before, after or right now?
Are you going to drive yourself crazy trying to follow a strict diet or meal plan. Or "lifestyle"? No offense, if you're restricting your calories, counting macros, using MyFitnessPal, and measuring your food- it's NOT a lifestyle. If you're going into something that you won't be able to do the REST of your life...it's probably not for you.
Of course, there are some short term diets and cleanses that can benefit you...but NOT if you're in mindset of "I'm not good enough or lovable until my body shrinks to a certain size."
SO, STOP driving yourself nuts. Being 10 pounds heavier or 10 pounds lighter isn't what is going to make you happy.
My issue with Before and After photos is that they place the before photos in a context that implies that it's unacceptable to look like what we look like in our before photos.
You've gotta work on your positive body image. Because you’re in for a rude awakening for when you do reach your goal and are still unhappy. Ya'll. I did a bikini competition. I was LITERALLY on-stage thinking in my head, "I'm still not lean enough."
It DIDN'T MATTER that I was in the BEST shape of my life, that I weighed 15 pounds less than I do now, or that I had a six pack.
MY MINDSET and body image was soooooo disoriented.
I'm all for being our best self, as you know of course, being a coach. But, when we compare our before and after photos negatively, we're implying that there is something wrong about our before selves. And it needs to stop.
RESULTS ARE DIFFERENT FOR EVERYONE! Self-love means acceptance.
WANTS V. NEEDS - June 19
Client quote from this week!! 👏 YASSS! So huge! So many times I have people coming to me saying they have a “lack of motivation” to go to the gym.
PSA: if you are only going to the gym as a punishment and trying to lose weight- it’s no wonder there is no motivation there!
As humans we are Hardwired to seek pleasure and avoid pain. It goes against your own survival mechanisms to force yourself to go to the gym when you know it’s going to suck, and you are beating yourself up the whole time.
When you can finally go to the gym or workout or run because you really WANT to rather than going as a punishment or feeling that you “have to “... WOW. What a huge mindset shift and success.
When is the last time you went to the gym or did a work out just for fun? When you weren’t trying to track the calories, burn off the pizza you just ate, or stick to some program to lose weight?
Newsflash – when you start choosing to find joy and movement and start reframing your mind, you actually burn more calories because your body is in a state of relaxation and happiness. If you need help getting to a place where you have freedom and want that “motivation” back to get to the gym
EMOTIONAL EATING - June 20
On a scale of 1-10 how much do you struggle with emotional eating?
1. No real impact
5. Sometimes I emotionally eat.
10. OMG biggest hurdle to getting healthy.
SUCCESS - June 21
“You don’t need to pretend to be strong. You need to give yourself some credit, love yourself, take actions that spring from your deepest values and highest self. The strength will emerge from there. Give it time.” Brendon Buchard.
Give it time.
Whatever journey or path you’re on, it’s not usually linear or “step by “step” or easy.
It goes in damn loopdy-loops and squiggles.
When I’m working with clients on their health and self love journey it’s not linear.
It goes up and down. You move forwards, then move backwards.
What is happening in your life, no matter how shitty, is happening FOR you, not TOO you.
There is a purpose, a lesson, a divine wisdom in your symptoms and circumstances.
You have to take the first step to TRUST everything is going to be okay.
I know. Easier said than done. But you can start by accepting yourself and where you’re at.
THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU AND YOU DON’T NEED TO BE FIXED.
There just might be some barriers in your way of you being able to experience being whole, happy and complete. My job as a coach, is to get those damn barriers out of the way.
So, one more piece of advice: If your future best self-a version of you ten years older, who is even stronger, more capable, and more successful than you imagined yourself to be- showed up on your doorstep TODAY and looked at your current circumstances, what courageous action would that future self advise you to take right away to change your life? How would your future self tell you to LIVE?